When I started getting into trouble I became pretty acclimated to legal procedures. Calling my attorney and working out bail was just another way to spend a Saturday night. Unfortunately, the stiffer the charges, the more difficult it was to talk my way out of a bad situation. After so many charges, I found myself slapped with a long jail sentence, and I realized that I wanted to turn things around. Fortunately, my lawyer was able to walk me through yet another process, so that I could make the right changes. My blog discusses how to emotionally cope with legal issues so that you can start living a good life.
Divorce can present multiple opportunities for all sorts of bad behavior, some of which could end up making your divorce spend a very long time being litigated. You can help make the process go smoother if you stay aware of your behavior during the fragile time period between your parting and the final decree if you do three things:
1. Seek the help and support of a divorce attorney and follow their guidance at all times and
2 and 3. Avoid doing either of two missteps below.
Turning to social media
Using Facebook, Insta, and Twitter has likely become second nature to you, but during a divorce you may want to just say "no" to posting about your life. If your divorce is anything but entirely uncontested, you may be making a big mistake when you post about how the divorce is affecting you, either negatively or positively. Don't make the mistake of thinking that your postings are safe because of how you have your security controls set up either; you must realize that if you post something, regardless of how "private" you may think it is, it can be accessed.
It's become quite common for information and photos found on social media to be located and used against a party in contested divorce or child custody cases. Part of nearly every court case is something called "discovery", where information is requested by the other side. When this happens, nothing is private and anything you have posted could be used against you. Imagine that you are requesting spousal support based on your expectation of the negative financial situation divorce could place you in. Then imagine that you have posted about taking expensive vacations and buying toys, baubles and more. Posting that info could torpedo any chances to get that valuable means of support.
Turing to substance use
Divorce can be a grueling experience and many people have limited resources to help them deal with the stress and emotional upheaval. If you think that having a glass or wine, a few beers or other drugs to help you deal with your issues is a good idea, you may be in trouble. Abuse can sneak up on you if you are not careful, particularly when you are using substances to help you cope. Not only is this unhealthy for you in every way, but it may only make your depression and moods worse and lead to lasting damage for you. What might start out as a few extra drinks or other substances could quickly turn into something far worse, something that could damage your chances for a fair divorce settlement or for getting custody of your children. Instead, take time to take care of yourself, seeking professional help if needed.Share